Where have all the good men gone?

Please stop reading here, if you are easily offended. This post is a very personal post, and you may not agree with what i have to say (especially if you’re male, but if you are and disagree with what i have to say…then please tell me)

So in the last month I have had some interesting experiences with a few males, I have come to a few conclusions about the male specie.

My first thought is that women have evolved…we’ve become very independent, intelligent and we know what we want (whether it be casual or serious). We’re no longer the stereotypical women, who is easily pleased with just dinner, for a date. We want more we want men to be creative, think outside of the box. I think because we have evolved faster…men haven’t caught up yet…seriously. We have lowered our expectations for men, but as soon as they start talking and telling us stuff (that we want to hear!) woooommppphhh the expectation bar raises. We want more. We want to be adored. I have always said honesty is the one thing i want from a man, but i think im going to change that to respect first- then honesty, because i don’t think a man can be completely honest…not in the initial dating period. This is where men and women differ. We are able to be honest straight up- men…i’m not so sure unless it’s to get you into bed!

My second experience that got me thinking, was recently in a club. I personally would never go up to a guy i liked…NEVER. I believe if a guy wants you…he will pick up the balls and go and talk to you…regardless whether your with your friends. So, guys you always get brownie points if you can pick up the courage to come over and speak to a girl… it’s not easy (a lot of rejection at stake!) BUT once you succeed at that point… don’t blow it.

Experience from Friday night

1. GUY asks me to dance (ok this is slightly weird because i was already dancing…but ok, your cute…and you’ve managed to come over to me when i’m with my friends…bonus points)

2. GUY: “you have beautiful eyes.” ok this is a compliment… very nice…but very standard! I have nice eyes. I never know how to come back to that… (maybe it’s just me!) But this for me is like a warming up tool- give the girl a compliment (one that i hear a lot…but realistically its a bit lame…)

*so i kiss this guy- not sure why, i think it was because we were dancing awkwardly and i thought it was something to do- my mistake!*

3. GUY: yes he actually said this… “I think my lips like yours” WOW terrible line… also extremely cheesy.. what the hell?

then to finish off the night..

4. GUY: “Want to get out of here?” NO NO NO- i made up some lame answer and left.

Now this sounds very much like i’m looking for a serious commitment…so not just going back to his- as i’m sure it would be great…but even  if it was going to be something casual…be a little more respectful…you haven’t spoken to me? You know nothing…and to be honest im not that attracted to you.

So what do women want…

respect, honesty and for you to be a man. By that I mean, make decisions be powerful, be masculine…but at the same time be respectful to your girl. She wants to  know you like her…

So guys, if your reading this and disagree with my “women have evolved faster than men” theory…and terrible chat up line- that you think are going to work…please feel free to comment…also women if you have any thoughts please feel free to share!!!

Something to leave you with….

Holding out for a hero?

That’s all for now,

FS xoxo


Ode to the world of music

It’s been a while… so many lesson’s learnt in this past few days/weeks or however long it has been.

As I’m writing this i’m sat in an espresso bar, watching the world go by with a good friend. It’s amazing to sit in one place, and let the world go on around you…watch the weather go from blue sky…to grey…to rain (which makes me thankful i bought my brolly) 

Main lesson that I’ve learnt…trust the ones close to you. They know you better than yourself, and they are an outside perspective…which is always a more realistic, non cloudy version of  what’s going on in your life.

This week has been a long but short week im sure you know what that is…but i’ve spent a lot of time to listen to music. It’s bizarre that music can have such an impact on your life…the songs that you chose to listen to..usually reflect something…right?

I’m standing in front of you

The war is over…i’m not fighting you any more

You can’t deliver- so you turn it around

What doesn’t kill you makes you stronger

Ps I forgive you.

Love FS  xoxo

Trust is hard to get… Easy to lose! (or is it?)

This week… Wow it’s been a crazy one! With the arrival of the third amigo, a few midweek parties, the arrival of a new baby brayolit, girls Shabbat gone wild, and then lazy Sunday! All this, in your average week of TA. Although it has been fun… There have been a few bumps in the road this week… but u learn from them.
1. Trust is easy to get (well from me, because I will most likely believe everything u say, until I realise its not true… Very stupid I realise… now) but if you lose it… Who knows whether you will get it back?!
2. Never leave without saying how u feel.
3. Always invite more… Then you will never be rushed/underestimate food… Although I love it… Not sure about the hour panic :s
4. Always be true to yourself and never do anything that doesn’t feel right.

One thing I’m really trying to get my head around, whilst living in TA is to be blunt- say it how it is… Ask how it is. It’s hard to do, because of my British politeness but if you want to get around here… You have to be blunt and straight to the point… So this week… I will try it out!
Will keep you posted, but thats all for now!
FS xoxo

Hello 2012!

So the first week of the new year is nearly over….Do you think it’s true that you can tell how a year is going to be, by how you start it off? Nahhhh! If I was going to use last year as an example, my year definitely could not have been predicted!

So this year has started off well, with the arrival of a good friend making the flat less empty, being with the girls and working in a place that makes me very happy!

Your life is your life. It’s simple. You make what you can of it, you change the things you don’t like, and you live each day one by one, not because it could be your last, but because why not? Why not enjoy every day that you get?

I’ve had a lot of things that have tested my happiness…a lot of them last year (and the year before that) but sometimes it has to be bad before it goes good… you just ride it out!

I wish there was more to say, but right now…i’m very happy….

Here’s to 2012 being one of the greatest years of my life!

More soon,

FS xoxo

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